Drug Rehab for Parents
A Partnership for Drug-Free Kids reveals that 23 million Americans are currently addicted to alcohol or drugs.1 Many of these individuals are parents. In all cases, addiction doesn’t just affect the individual; it affects everyone around that person. In the cases of parents, the most substantial effects are often felt by their children.
Here you’ll learn how parental substance use disorder can affect children and how parents can get the addiction treatment they need.
How Common Is Parental Addiction?
Unfortunately, parental substance use disorder is all too common. The National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence states an estimated 26.8 million children are exposed to alcohol use disorder in their family while 18 million individuals have an alcohol use disorder in the US.
It’s estimated 12% of children in the US live with a parent who has a drug or alcohol dependency or misuses alcohol or drugs, as noted by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).2 In 2005, the National Survey on Drug Use and Health found that 8.3 million children who were under the age of 18 lived with at least one parent who misused or had a substance use disorder.3
In the majority of cases, children are living with a parent who misuses alcohol or has an alcohol dependency. In fact, per SAMHSA’s 2005 data, about 7.3 million children in the US were living with a parent who was dependent or misused alcohol while approximately 2.2 million children lived with a parent who had a drug dependency or used illicit drugs.
For some kids, exposure to drugs and alcohol happens before they even enter into the world. In fact, statistics supplied by SAMHSA show that 400,000 infants each year, which is about 10% of all births, are exposed to a substance in the womb. On a local and state level, in some areas, up to 30% of all unborn children are exposed to a substance prenatally.
Data from the 2012 National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH) reveals that:4
- 5.9% of pregnant women between the ages of 15-44 were illicit drug users.
- The greatest amount of substance use among pregnant women was found in the younger generation.
- 18.3% of pregnant women between the ages of 15 and 17 used a substance during pregnancy.
- 8.5% of pregnant women between the ages of 15 and 44 reported currently using alcohol.
- 2.7% of the pregnant women surveyed reported binge drinking.
- 0.3% reported heavy drinking.
How Does Addiction Affect Children?
Children of parents who misuse drugs may be affected in several ways. In homes where addiction leads to neglect or abuse, other effects may include:
- The children not being fed or bathed regularly.
- A lack of structure in the household.
- Children not having any rules, or inconsistent rules and associated consequences.
In some instances, life at home can be loving, but in other cases, children may:
- Feel withdrawn.
- Feel unsure.
- Blame themselves for the substance use disorder.
- Have the problems at home radiate into their school life.
In cases of parental addiction, the parent and child may not bond. The parent may neglect to respond to the child’s needs or may have difficulties controlling their emotions, resulting in angry outburst or even abuse. Communication between the parent and child may suffer substantially. In households where parents have limited funds, the parent may opt to purchase drugs or alcohol as opposed to food, clothing, or other necessities for the child.
How Can a Parent Get the Addiction Treatment They Need?
It can be difficult for a parent to get the addiction treatment needed, especially if the parent is the sole caregiver or the “breadwinner” for the family. However, the negatives alcohol and drug misuse have on children can lead to significant problems in the child’s life that continue into adulthood.
Research conducted on prison inmates shows many of them were abused as children and/or grew up in an environment where one or both of their parents had a substance use disorder.5 Children who grow up in a home where at least one parent misuses a substance are 3-4 times more likely to develop drug or alcohol addiction themselves.6 These children are more likely to develop the following as well:
- Eating disorders
- Suicidal thoughts or actions
If a parent is suffering from addiction, professional help is needed – both for the individual’s own health and for the health of the children. For some parents, an outpatient treatment program makes sense, so they can remain in their own home with their children the majority of the time.
In outpatient treatment, the person will attend rehab during the day a few times per week, though sometimes they will attend every day. Each night they will return home to their residence. Since there are different levels of outpatient treatment, some parents may participate in partial-day programs so they can pick their kids up from school every day.
In some instances, such as in cases of severe or long-term addictions, outpatient treatment may be insufficient. In an inpatient program, patients reside on site for the duration of the program, receiving 24-hour care and supervision. This is the most intensive level of treatment.
If a parent must attend residential treatment, other care will need to be arranged for their children. Generally, children won’t be able to visit their parent for at least the first week, allowing the parent time to focus on withdrawal and the very earliest stage of recovery. Most treatment programs will then incorporate children into the recovery process, such as via family therapy and family events.
Single parents may think there isn’t a way to attend an inpatient rehab since they have nobody to watch their children. On the other hand, they might fear losing their child if they check into an inpatient program.
Though rare, some inpatient rehab programs allow parents to bring their child to stay with them during treatment. In some cases, the rehab center may have a daycare program to assist with those who don’t have anybody to watch their children. The facility might also be able to offer guidance to parents regarding other options for childcare.
Ultimately, it’s best for the child if the parent gets help. A parent struggling with addiction can’t be fully present and functional for their child. Even if treatment requires that the parent leave their child temporarily in the care of someone else, it’s best for the long-term health of the child and the long-term relationship between the parent and child.
Assistance with Repairing Relationships with Children
It’s vital that a parent realizes that a damaged relationship with a child isn’t always immediately mendable. It may take time for the child to learn to trust again and feel safe, so a parent needs to be understanding. While the parent should extend a hand to the child, they must recognize that the child might not respond positively right away.
Often, the parent just needs to start by being an actively involved parent. The parent must accept responsibility for the damage done to the relationship and take the necessary steps to change their behavior and repair that damage. The best way to do this is to maintain ongoing sobriety and work on their personal issues so they can be the best parent possible to their child.
Therapy is essential to repairing the parent-child relationship. In family therapy, children can feel comfortable expressing the hurt that the addiction has caused them, and this is often the first step to healing. Through gentle guidance by a therapist, lines of communication can be opened between the parent and child.
Treatment can help children realize that the addiction isn’t their fault. The parent can express that despite their past actions, they do really love the child, and they are working to get well so they can be a better parent to them. Ultimately, children can learn to feel safe again with the parent, and the work done in therapy can help to foster this growth.
Often, younger children aren’t going to understand the complexity of addiction. Instead, younger children may be able to go through play therapy to help them come to terms with their feelings. Play therapy is a structured approach to therapy that helps children process feelings and communicate in an environment that’s suitable to their developmental level.7
This particular approach allows children, especially those who can’t verbally express their thoughts or feelings, to express what is bothering them. The parent may become involved in the play therapy at some point since the way a kid plays can signify an issue within the family. The therapist and parent will determine when it’s best to incorporate the parent into the child’s therapy sessions.
Parents who have misused drugs or alcohol from the time their children were little may greatly benefit from parenting skills classes. Parenting skills classes teach parents the basic skills necessary to raise a child in a healthy environment. Parents learn what children require to thrive and how to establish rules and consistency.
With these workshops, parents can feel more confident in their parenting skills and learn how to take care of their child properly if they haven’t done so up until this point. Sessions can help a parent feel less guilt about what has happened in the past in the knowledge that they will be better going forward.
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